Paula’s story in memory of Brett

Brett went to the emergency department with stomach pain on September 9, 2020. 10 days later he went home with a colostomy bag and a Stage 4 bowel cancer diagnosis.

He had experienced symptoms for years and had discussed them with his GP but neither of them ever considered cancer. His bowel screen was in the cupboard; untouched.

He started chemo, followed by a liver resection. Then more chemo. The cancer spread further. More surgery and more chemo. It was 2021 and Melbourne was in the midst of many COVID lockdowns. As soon as we could; we started camping; not an easy task with drop toilets and a bag. Then when the borders opened, we went to Thailand.

Across four years Brett did 85 chemo sessions, three surgeries, 85 nights camping and travelled to seven different countries.

When the side effects became too great; he cashed in his life insurance and gave up his beloved career as a social worker. He got a companion cat so that he would have a reason on the tough days to get out of bed to feed her. He joined Facebook Groups so he could share his experiences with others, especially those starting out on a cancer journey.

He was always willing to be honest about how overwhelming and scary it was having cancer. He told everyone to do their bowel screening test and be honest with their GP.

For those with cancer, he would encourage them to get out into the world and live life as best as they could. Even if it was just going to sit on the sidelines to watch a game of footy with his girl by his side.

Brett spent his last days at home until he grew wings on November 2, 2024.

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My one piece of advice: If you aren’t living the life you want – cancer is a good wake-up-call to think about what you want to change.

Brett’s Motto – Cancer has to live with me not the other way around. He worked hard to ensure he balanced treatment with living life and creating memories with the people he loved.